Since that time, we've darkened the doors of many a church building only to hear moralistic, duty-laden law preaching that majors big-time on the Christian's failure to do the Christian life in the Christian way. We've been scolded from several pulpits and in one instance, even told God is mad at us and wants us to "shut up." We've been chastened for not being brave like David was brave and to prove his point, that particular pastor dimmed the lights to show a clip on bravery from the movie Titanic. My wife got up and left before the clip ever started or the lights dimmed, but I had the decency to wait until the lights dimmed before I ducked down and made a beeline for the door. I attribute my wait to my fear of man. Yet another of my plethora of sins Jesus died for.
I've lost count of the number of churches we've visited since the one we were a part of ceased to be. My wife and I sometimes joke that we've walked out of so many churches that we've stopped walking in. We've surfed the web for countless hours looking at church web sites and listening to sermons. We've come across some that boast the gospel on their web site but when you get inside the building, it becomes clear they don't really know what gospel-centered means. When I mentioned to one pastor that what drew us there that Sunday was the gospel references on their web site, he immediately glazed-over and didn't know what I was referring to. His message that morning was all about accountability groups, submitting to the pastor, and the importance of keeping each other in line because we're such screw-ups (we are, by the way) and God is angry with our sloppy selves. There was no mention of Jesus. No hope. No good news. None. When visiting a church results in running to the medicine cabinet afterward to pop an Ativan or two, something's terribly wrong. I could go on and on, but I'll spare you the agony. You get the idea.
I take comfort in knowing we're not alone in our struggle. We're finding that there are pockets of people, both across the country and locally, who are in the same crazy predicament. They haven't left Jesus but they feel the church (again, church in the institutional, traditional sense) has, so they don't go there very often. Some of them don't go at all. One blogger called those pockets of people "The Dones" because they're just done with it all. They haven't left Jesus; they feel the church has left Jesus. Rod Rosenbladt'smessage, The Gospel for Those Broken by the Church is helpful and encouraging and is one of our early podcasts.
It's amazing how these pockets of like-minded gospel-centered "Dones" find each other. We've found some of them and some of them have found us. Our Thursday nights are spent with one such ragtag group of gospel misfits and ragamuffins, all of whom have experiences similar to ours with institutional churches and all of whom just want to be reminded that "it is finished" and that Jesus' grace is greater than all our sin and failure. That there is sweet hope outside of ourselves in our perfect Substitute, Jesus, whose perfect record of righteousness is ours by faith (and even the faith itself is a gift!), even when our faith is wobbly, which is most of the time. Lord, we believe. Help our unbelief! We remember Jesus' sacrifice for us around the communion table and we speak his grace into each other's lives in the midst of our troubles and failures. No one gets scolded and we don't try to fix each other. It's a safe place to be. We may even throw on an occasional video to be reminded of the now-power of the gospel in the midst of our brokenness. This is the church without all the fluff. This is fellowship and this is community. This is the church. And other "Dones" are catching wind of it and our number is growing ever so slowly. Broken people who know they're broken and who know Jesus came for the broken, tend to attract other broken people. I'm good with that. It's a beautiful thing to see and be a part of.
I've been in the faith for 43 years now. I'm almost as old as one of my gospel heroes, Steve Brown (but not quite!), and in all those years, I've seen a lot of changes in the church. I'm an ordained pastor and I've pastored several different churches and planted two. I've spent time on the inside and I've seen how things work in there. On the one hand, I get it when people express concern over our not finding a traditional church. But on the other hand, I think your concern is misplaced. I get what you're saying. I really do. I've been looking for years, but to no avail. I'm tired now and I feel like one of the "Dones." Someone has suggested that we just join a church (that phrase even sounds weird) - any church - and then work from the inside to change it to a gospel-centered focus. But having spent years in leadership and pastoring, I know the futility of such an undertaking. I can't even change myself, let alone, an entire church. That's the Holy Spirit's job, not mine. It's above my pay grade. Others have yelled at me on social media, saying, "Just find a church!" That's like telling someone to find gold. It's one thing to look but quite another to find.
The writer of the letter to the Hebrews said,
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. - Hebrews 10:24-25
Of all of the "Dones" in my life (myself included, if I truly am becoming one), none of them fits this description. I love the church - the people of God - and I want to be with God's people, at least most of them. And I am with them, but not in droves or in a mega-sense, or in what is considered a traditional or institutional sense to many today in the west. Small and intimate is where God has me today and I am loving it because the ones I have the privilege of being with are real and they know they're broken and that Jesus came to call sinners, not the [self] righteous to repentance.
To reiterate what I said above, I get what you're telling me. I really do. And I appreciate your care and concern. But I'm far from isolated even though I don't frequent a building every Sunday morning and participate in structured traditional worship there. Since my crash and burn six years ago, resulting in my deliverance from performance-based Christianity, grace has confronted and changed my thinking in many areas. This seems to be one more as I've been forced out of my comfort zone regarding church. The church isn't a place. It's a people in any place. It's a body. It's the body of Christ, not a location, or a building, or a campus. None of us "goes to church." We are the church. If you have the privilege of going to a place of worship every Sunday, good for you. Cherish it. But keep in mind you're not going to church. You're the church and the church is going to a building. Maybe one day I'll be able to do that again too. Maybe not. But either way, give me Jesus!